If I had money everytime someone asked that question I'd be rich! The answer isn't a secret when it comes to dieting. Let's just start by eliminating the word, diet. Don't you feel so limited or restricted with that term, diet? Let's erase it from your vocabulary! 👌

There's only one thing you need when making the decision to lose those unwanted pounds.

Mindset.

You can download all the eating plans, exercise programs, weights for your room, Bowflex, and every motivational book you want. Go ahead. Spend the money. I'm telling you that all the money in the world won't help you maintain your goals if you don't have the right mindset. Think about that for a few seconds and I'll give you some examples.

7 Marathons in 7 Days - I've never run more than 10 miles in my life and I ran 7 marathons in 7 days for child abuse prevention. We only had a few months to train which was crazy talk. I stopped at various locations throughout the day to talk with listeners and then start running again. I'm no athlete or super in shape guy. My mindset was set on finishing with no excuses or exceptions. My faith is a part of my mindset and that's all I needed. It's the determination that knowing no isn't acceptable.

Quitting Smoking - I started when I joined the military for some idiotic reason to pass time. I started smoking cloves, menthol and then to regular ones. Most of my family has smoked since they were younger and I escaped it till the Navy. It wasn't until a great friend came into my office in the dead set of winter and handed me an e-cigarette. "You're gonna kill yourself and I'm not gonna sit around watch you do it. Try one of these." I've never smoked a cigarette since and only smoked those for about 6 months. That was 6 years ago. No cravings. Don't care.

Let me talk to the person who is having a bad day. Let me reach someone who just got into an argument and is SO frustrated. Try this.

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Smile. I was listening to Anthony Robbins (life coach) over ten years ago and there's something he joked about that I've never forgotten, State of Mind.

State of Mind:  A person's emotional state: mood.

Robbins helped me realize that it's up to us in order to feel good. You can change your state in the snap of a finger without pause. I know this may sound cheesy but try it. Go look in a bathroom mirror or rear view as you're driving. I want you to make the biggest smile you've ever seen right now and hold it for :10 seconds.

1...2...3...4...5...6...7...8...9...10 😁

Did you laugh at yourself? Good! Great! You should and why wouldn't you. We are the only ones that have control over our lives and it starts with mindset. You want to lose weight because you think it's what society wants - go ahead and good luck. You want to change your eating habits with making better and more healthy choices - that sounds like a great idea. It doesn't matter what your choice is but if you believe in what you're doing.

I listen to people complain about social media every day and what the gossip is. I've witnessed people I know complain about bullying and become the worst offenders. Miserable people love the company and it's your decision on whether you wanna join. People can hate all they want but it's YOU that has to live for yourself. Just because someone else's experience keeps them from achieving success doesn't mean they are YOU.

Feeling down because your last break-up ripped out the very soul you cherish? Well, I guess you could eat the world and feel completely unhappy if it that works. I just wonder why? Why would YOU ever let someone else pen your autobiography? You only get one life. Why would you flush it down the drain for a relationship?

This blog is themed around losing weight and making sure you don't make this one mistake. I truly believe that happiness is a mindset. You can either let other people direct the path you take or you can draw the line.

  • Today I won't settle for failure.
  • I won't listen to the noise that brings me down and kills my motivation.
  • Today I promise that no isn't an option and confidence is my new weapon.
  • I will cut out sugar and soda for the next 3 weeks and see what happens.
  • I will walk 15 minutes after each meal with no exception even if it's around my home.
  • I will look in the mirror every day and say, "I am beautiful. I am strong. I can do this."
  • I will NOT let someone else control my state of mind by negativity or control. I am in control.
  • I realize that becoming healthy and fit isn't an overnight trick. This isn't a quick fix, but a mindset. Today I choose to say, "I'm in control."

Take it step by step and decide that you WILL change your mindset today. Don't wait till tomorrow or in 3 weeks. Blah, blah, blah. Decide you WILL change today. This is your life and you're taking it back today. Your mindset is simple. No isn't in your vocabulary and you can lose however much you decide WHEN you make that decision.

None of this is a science. Go be a dreamer RIGHT NOW. Make this a reality and get your mind right. Smile. They will ALL envy you when they see you next.

Make mindset your superpower. It's hard to stop a person that is determined and no ex-boyfriend will EVER be able to control that.

The answer: The truth is very simple, the one mistake you make ever time you diet is NOT believing in yourself. We only have this one life. Don't waste another minute saying "woulda, coulda, or shoulda"

Today you are beautiful and I believe in you.

Go believe in yourself.