Group Therapy Thursday: I Look Like His Dead Ex-Girlfriend
A girl is dating a guy who just lost his girlfriend six months ago. After seeing what she looked like, new girlfriend is realizing that she looks identical to her. Same everything. Is this guy just trying to fill a void with her? Should she say something?
Group Therapy Thursday happens every Thursday with Cruise and Box. We take your Facebook messages and emails, read them out loud and ask for advice on your behalf. Sometimes it takes an outsider's perspective to decide what you should do in a situation. Friends and family may spare your feelings and offer you advice that isn't the most honest. When the audience chimes in, they'll give it to you straight. Plus, we've all been through some stuff so you may find that you actually aren't alone.
I don't want to be a downer but I have no idea who could read this story and say they've been through it. This may be just an "offer advice" moment.
Here's the whole story about the twin girlfriends:
I just started dating a guy. I found out that six months ago, his girlfriend died. He’s one of the sweetest people I’ve ever met. I was heartbroken for him when I found out that she had passed. Just recently, I came across her Facebook profile. I wouldn’t have thought anything of it if we didn’t look exactly alike. Not only are we almost twins but we appear to be the same height, we have the same style, we like the same activities and we even like the same bands.
I showed the profile to a few friends and they agree the similarity between us is striking. Several of them told me I should bring it up with my new boyfriend.
I don’t think this guy is using me but I’m worried that he’s trying to fill the hole that his ex-girlfriend left and I just happen to fit. I can’t blame someone for how they try to get out of such a dark place but if he is substituting me for her, that can’t be healthy for him either. I may be preventing him from moving on and it’s the last thing I want.
What should I do? I’m torn and heartbroken but should I tell him?
Emotional in Eagle
Comment with your advice on what you think she should do. We'll talk about it on Thursday morning at 8:00 a.m.