Open Letter to The Bachelor: What Happened to Women Supporting Women?
I am and have been a fan of The Bachelor since the beginning. However, last night I got this gross feeling while watching the girls tear each other apart. This isn't how we treat each other and I feel pity toward these mean girls who can't seem to get it.
I've been in a relationship with you for several years. I've been with you through some serious drama from the time when you had a new bachelor every season until now when you just find the most "interesting" person from the season before. It's okay, I'm all about efficiency and recognition.
Remember the years that caused major drama? There was Vienna Giardi who couldn't seem to get her head on straight or keep all of her clothes on but still managed to get the attention of Jake Pavelka. There was Kasey Kahl who vowed to Ali that he would "Guard and protect her heart" by getting a tattoo signifying just that. These two examples are obviously just a small portion of what we've been through over the years - you and I.
Last night I'm online live-tweeting the show like I've done on several occasions. I'm paying attention to the girls and how they're reacting to one another, how they feel like they have a future with (insert whatever Bachelor is up for grabs here) and completely ripping apart the other girls because of the level of jealousy each one feels.
However, as I'm sitting on my couch in "live tweet mode," I'm getting sucked in to the cattiness like I do every season. I start slinging insults and laughing along with the mean girls.
Then I realize what's happening. I'm disgusting. I'm intimidated by the mean girls in real life because I know that nothing is off limits. Last night was proof of that. It doesn't matter what you do or who you are, you are a target to the mean girls.
My point. There are much bigger issues in this world than ugly toes and cankles. There wasn't much more of the show left to watch when I turned it off. I don't know if I can do it anymore. I don't like how I feel when I watch. I don't like the negativity I feel toward other women. I'm about empowerment and living like Taylor Swift #squadgoals. As females, we need to work together and support each other. We need to lift each other up and show each other how much we care. That's what it's all about.
I don't know where I'll go from here or what I plan to fill my Monday night's with, but I'm taking my life in another direction. I'd say "It's not you, it's me" but that would be a lie. It's totally you on this one. No matter the fault, I'm saying goodbye.
I'd love to be able to do something similar to The Bachelor but include women with great heads on their shoulders. I'm not even saying the women on the actual show don't have brains, they just aren't able to show them off. How great would it be to see this?
Are you a fan of The Bachelor or are you seeing the same thing I am?