Dear Keke and Kat: Found Out My GF Has Secret Job

Secrets are never cool, especially ones like this.

Dear Keke and Kat,

 

My girlfriend and I have been together for a while and I've been trying to move in together for quite some time. She keeps giving me excuses to not live together, ranging from needing her own space to not wanting to live with someone until marriage to just not being ready overall. Even though everything else is great in our relationship, I assumed that would be the natural next step.

 

Recently I found out why she didn't want to live together. It's because she's been keeping a secret from me. Hiding her second source of income. Hiding a complete job. And living a double life.

 

I found out my girlfriend has been a webcam model since before we were even together. She didn't tell me about this, I just stumbled upon this little fact. I'm at a loss for what to do. I know this isn't really cheating in general, but she's been lying to me and not furthering our relationship because of this secret. I don't know if I can trust her now, and I don't know how I feel about my girlfriend basically flirting with other men for money. It's weird to me. It's all I can think about now when she doesn't answer her phone or takes a while to text me back.

One thing is right, she's definitely not cheating. Maybe she didn't know how he would react and that's why she kept it a secret. I don't know how I'd feel if I came across a secret like this. It would be hard to get over. Has anyone kept a secret this big from you?