Dear Keke and Kat: Found Out My Mom is Cheating

This is uncomfortable. Imagine finding out that one of your parents is cheating on the other one, and no one else knows. What would you do? How do you handle that? Is it your place to say something to your parent, or do you leave it alone?

Dear Keke and Kat:

 

My parents have been married for most of my life. My mom got married when I was young, and I consider that man my dad. He stepped up in every way possible and has always been there for me. I just found out some devastating news.

 

My mom is cheating on my dad. I found out by chance when I came across some emails, but now that I know, I can't go back. My mom knows that I know, and she's trying to convince me to not say anything. She's promising that it's over with this other guy, but I'm not sure if I believe that. To top it off, she's basically making me feel like my loyalty should be to her since she's my blood and he is not. I really don't feel like this is fair.

 

I don't want to rat her out but at the same time, I feel terrible knowing that this is either happening or happened and haven't told him. He's been there for me always. I don't know what to do. Should I believe that it's over like she said and move on, or do I get involved with telling him the truth?

This is really tricky. By telling the dad, you'd be majorly "betraying" the mom, but hiding it for her would be betraying him. I really don't know how I'd handle this!