Dear Keke and Kat: How do I Convince My Friend To Leave Her Guy

I can't count the amount of times that a friend or family member was with a terrible guy and I couldn't wait for them to breakup. But through life experience, I've realized that you really can't convince someone to make a decision they aren't ready to make. Someone only goes through a breakup once they've decided it's time for them leave the relationship.

Summarized from today's Dear Keke and Kat:

Dear Keke and Kat-

 

One of my best friends has been in a relationship that I cannot stand. The guy is so immature, he's not productive, I feel like he's bringing her down and I just don't trust him. This isn't me being an overbearing friend, he just consistently is selfish with her time and she does less and less things that she loves in order to do what he wants.

 

When we do do group things together and he's there, I notice how immature his humor is. And it's not like she finds it funny, she's constantly rolling her eyes and irritated by his unacceptable jokes. I've tried to talk to her about it, and that she's not thriving in life like she was before she started dating him, but she won't even hear me out. I fee like deep down she knows that he's not right for her, but refuses to pull the trigger and break up with him!

 

How can I convince her to dump him?

Again, I really don't think anyone breaks up with anyone until they're ready to see if for themselves, regardless of the situation. What would you do?